Source: Family Uniqueness
Family Uniqueness
•January 4, 2016 • Leave a Comment
If your family is like ours, you use colorful language in conversation. No, we don’t yell at each other or call each other obnoxious names we do however use sentence enhancers to spice up stories. I remember as a kid having friends who had extreme yelling in their homes. I could hardly stand it! I thought they hated each other and mistook loudness as fighting. Turns out they weren’t fighting at all, just communicating. My mother never yelled at us, ever! She had a steady tone that was the scariest thing I had ever heard. That quiet steady tone left little question as to how much trouble we were in.
When my daughters were growing up I was a single mom and as anyone can imagine four women in a house meant noise. There was always someone laughing, yelling, crying or complaining. We had plenty of noise and when they went for weekends to see their dad the quiet was deafening. It was the opposite of how I was raised. My mom always told us to act like “young ladies” which of course we did for fear of the quiet steady tone.
Families all have their distinct identity that makes them unique. Some have a religious identities, some identify with loud communication and others identify with their genetic or racial background. Still some people identify with a label. When my kids were growing up, my identity was wrapped up in being a working single mom. Of course, now they are grown and my identity went through a bit of a crisis when my youngest daughter was leaving for college.
Finding a new identity happens to everyone as they go through life’s changes. Hopefully, your authentic identity is something you share with the world.
parent style
•October 25, 2015 • Leave a Comment
How would you define your style of parenting? Kind? Firm? Calm? Do you just wing it day by day? I remember when my kids were young and I would just hope for the best most days. I never knew what was going to happen. Were we going to have money to pay the bills or were the kids going to have a tantrum in the grocery store? I was stressed often but in spite of everything, my kids turned into nice people and good citizens. whew!
Parenting style is something that people learn as a accumulation of all life experiences. Whether good or bad, how we handle past experience will determine parenting styles. I think as my kids were growing up my style changed. I went through different stages during different ages and of course each child has their own unique personality. I don’t think there can be a wrong parenting style as long as the style is done with love. Many parents fear parenting. Truthfully, it’s scary. Fear of judgement by other parents or even those who aren’t parents. Worrying you might do it wrong and scar your child for life. These are legitimate worries however, we can’t go around worrying about what others think of us, or our kids. You know in your heart if your right. Your kids will appreciate the love even if they don’t show it. Parenting is one of those things that won’t yield a reward for many years to come.
Hello universe, are you there? It’s me Lola
•June 30, 2015 • Leave a CommentFor numerous reasons, I haven’t been on this blog for a while. My writing has come into question, specifically my grammar. True, I suck at grammar, but I’ve decided to just work on it and move on. While questioning my path I asked the universe what the heck is going on? I want to write, but I’m not even sure anymore what to write? I published a book, but sales are slow (which is an understatement). I woke during the night last night and felt I needed to write in this blog.
While asking the universe what is going on, I also inquired as to what my purpose is on this earth. Surely, we are all here to contribute to the betterment of mankind, right? I work in billing and truthfully, it lacks that fulfillment we all seek. I’m studying psychology, with only a year and a half to my degree. I really just want to write. That’s it, write, run, yoga and hang with my people!
I’ve decided that I will work on just spreading love, kindness, and laughter and see if the universe shows me the way. Love and kindness seem simple and for the most part it is, but sometimes I find myself engaging in judgment and gossip. It’s a work in progress I guess, so to whoever decides to read this I send you love and kindness and laughter!
Thank you for stopping by!
Lola
The Super Sime Guide to CPS
•March 2, 2015 • Leave a Commentmy book is ready to share. For those whose communication is blocked between social worker and family.
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